LOVE ALONE IS ENOUGH

Angelina said this to Angelo 4 years ago; today they are fighting daily over almost everything, from toothpaste scarcity to lack of sanitary pad for her period. Is this what we want to multiply by encouraging people to marry without securing their financial future? 


Love indeed is enough, but life must be put in perspective. You might be a serious believer in take the leap of faith or “cho otu udu gwajuo class of life”, or “a make we dey see as e de go kind of person”. Either way you have some very pressing questions to answer yourself before getting any man's daughter into your world forever, those questions are coming below please be sincere with yourselves and say the facts as they are. 


  1. 1. Can you sustainably take care of your needs and have some spare, assuming you don’t get paid in the next 5months? 

  1. 2. Aside getting her shiny items and fancy outing, can you boast of an asset you own? 

  1. 3. Is marriage a game to you or a lifetime of decisive commitment? 

  1. 4. Assuming your religion or society doesn’t speak against sex outside marriage, will you real care to be married? 

  1. 5. What's your plan for the economic growth of you intended family or will your erection determine the direction of your tribe?  


When you give the above their sincere answers, you can go ahead and adjust what needs adjusting, eliminate what needs eliminating and adopt whatever needs adopting; so that you can be sure of being the right father for your kids and optimal mate for your spouse. 


Likewise, ladies before you begin to rain your peer-pressure induced; stylish when are we getting married treatments, try to answer the following reasonable questions in a very sincere and clear manner to yourself. 

  1. 1. What is marriage to me (an escape from poverty or a partnership for generational greatness)? 

  1. 2. Beside saying I gave you my body, what else can you contribute in your relationship? 

  1. 3. Can I still call him honey in the heat of an argument or will he become Angelo instead of candy crush when jungle mature? 

  1. 4. When you are having a mood swings, have I found out the solutions or will I leave another woman’s son in the quagmire of deciphering how to help me from my “mindal” sambisa? 

  1.  5. This wedding I want, how much do I have to contribute to the actualisation, or will my intended be both the keeper and striker in the materialisation of my fantasies? 


I am sure when these are resolved we are on a better frame of mind to know, whether to allow the society push us or take our time to make the best decisions for our collective future. 

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